about the unfinished list
For the lists you didn’t expect to make.
When someone you love is gone, you’re handed paperwork. Timelines. A dozen tiny decisions you didn’t plan for.
You’re grieving — and suddenly expected to stay organized, make choices, and keep things moving.
The Unfinished List was created for this moment.
The in-between.
The overwhelm.
The deep need to get it right, even when everything feels wrong.
This space is for the people trying to hold it all together — And hoping it can still feel personal, not just “handled.”
Because most families are handed a folder, not a roadmap. They’re expected to choose from pre-designed templates, make fast decisions, and somehow create something meaningful in the middle of it all.
What We Offer Instead
Structure. Writing help. Thoughtfully crafted visuals.
All designed to help you honor someone fully — without starting from scratch or doing it all on your own.
Whether you need a single piece or full support, this space exists to make the process more human — and the tribute more true.
Our Approach
No pressure.
No templates.
No assumptions.
Just thoughtful support — rooted in care and respect for who they were and what you need.
We don’t believe in one-size-fits-all. Every offering is shaped with intention, and just the right amount of guidance.
Why It’s Called The Unfinished List
Grief leaves behind more than memories.
It leaves behind a list:
The things they didn’t get to do.
The things you now have to figure out.
The pieces of a life you’re trying to honor.
The Unfinished List is a place to start — One clear step at a time.
From Me to You
I created this space after navigating loss in my own life — first as a daughter, then as the person trying to hold everything together for everyone else.
I remember what it felt like to plan a memorial while foggy and heartbroken. To write a eulogy that reflected how my mom influenced the way I move through the world. To want things to be beautiful and real, even when everything hurt.
If that’s where you are right now: I see you.
— Kirby